What is the cost of doing nothing?
Sometimes not making a change seems like the easiest, least taxing, least painful thing to do, after all not leaving a job you dislike is easy; you don’t have to do anything extra and you don’t need to make any changes and you still get paid. Not getting fit is easy; you don’t have to focus on your diet, you don’t have to make any changes and you certainly don’t have to take yourself to the gym or for a run and get all sweaty, you don’t even have to get off the couch. Not planning for your goals and dreams is easy, because you don’t have to do the inner work. What could be easier than repeating your standard day to day activities? I understand why people don’t do the necessary work and introspection to create change, but I don’t agree with it because the cost of doing so is too high.
Maintaining the status quo and not making the changes you need to, to progress, carries a high emotional price surrounded predominantly with fear. Many people don’t make changes because they are afraid to fail at something new, because they put too much emphasis on the failure. Success is built on the foundations of many failures and the price of not trying, is much, much higher than that of failing. It has long term repercussions because your brain uses the experience of fear as evidence of the pain to avoid. And so, it tries to keep you safe from pain by telling you “change bad”. Change is not bad, change is inevitable.
But people only make changes when the cost of staying in the same situation is higher than the cost of staying the same, that is when the pain of staying where you are is great than the pain of jumping both feet in and taking massive action.
With that said, what price are you paying for not taking the action you need to, to create the life you dream of? The cost of not taking action is lost time, lost chances to be happier, lost opportunities, lost peace of mind and a whole lifetime of regrets. No one wants to look back at their life and realise they spent all their best years working 40, 60, 80 (whatever) hours a week in a job that they didn’t even like.
I get it, there are a tonne of excuses floating around in your head about why it’s not the right time, but you are just letting yourself down and you will find the cost to your mental health is steep. It may not land you in full on depression but staying in a situation that makes you unhappy will only cause further unhappiness and pretty soon, it becomes difficult to see the good parts of the situation. Not taking action benefits us, in some form or another, whether we easily recognise it or not.
Perhaps not changing protects you from the pain of doing the inner work, the pain of potential failure and the pain of other people’s opinions.
I know making the change is the hard part, trust me, I do it all the time. I rip open my whole life and turn it upside down frequently enough to know that change is something I crave, when life gets too ‘samey’. It’s painful every time, but impact is always worth it.
What is the cost to you of not following your dreams? Seriously consider this, because if you are unhappy in your role or life now, what will it feel like in 5 years? Can you honestly put up with it for 5 more years? Would you like my help to begin to make the changes you are craving? Then get in touch to book a complimentary discovery session.